New Year, New Me! Or is it? How to have a reset any time of the year.

Like most people, new year’s resolutions never really last throughout the 52 weeks. Consistency has always been an issue for me for various reasons like being neurodivergent, life circumstances, being unrealistic, poor planning, unmotivated, pure laziness, self doubt etc.

In the past, I achieved goals related mostly the more rigid areas of my life like academics. Because, either because I hyperfocused on them, constant deadlines or pressure or accountable to other people. The more flexible areas of my life is where I tend to struggle the most such as exercising, eating healthier. So, after attempting and failing at many different planning methods, Mid December 2023, I decided to try something different that is more friendly to my neurodivergent brain and lifestyle more intentionally.

This was inspired by The 12-Week Year book by Brian P. Moran, Michael Lennington that I have listened to early 2023. However, unlike the book recommended 12 weeks, I decided to do 8 weeks. Except for one goal (to drink 72oz of water), after 3 weeks of struggling, I had to modify it to 16 weeks since it’s proven to be more difficult than expected for my body to get used to drinking so much water when I wasn’t even drinking 24oz in a day.

So by combining some suggestions from the book, tools I have learned from coaching and counseling and other books over the past 2 years and my prior trial and errors, I came up with this method.

My steps:

I spent a few days revisiting my long terms goals and dreams and my core values to see if anything has changed. Then I revamped my old vision board accordingly. I, then, picked 3-4 areas as my main focus for the 6 months off I have prior to starting my medical training. Then, I created 1-3 objectives (or broad goals) for each of those areas. Out of those objectives, I decided on 1-3 targets (or more specific goals) to work on within a certain timeframe. And finally, I have made some actionable steps for each of those targets with their own timeframe.

It may sound like a lot, but it is not. However, it does take some time to get through and set up in the beginning. After that it is fairly straightforward. Feel free to use my templates.

So, how do you create a new version of you in this new year or this new season of your life?

Whether January 1st or April 22th or November 11th or like me on December 16th, the life that you desire does not have to wait. You can start at any given point in the year and at any given day in the week. Just whatever you do, do it for a the better you that awaits.

Create a vision

According to Oxford dictionary, a vision is “the ability to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom;” it is to “imagine”.

Creating a vision is simply designing the life that you want to have removing all the impossibilities in it. Don’t try to be “realistic”. Just pour our your desire as vivid as possible on paper as the thoughts flow.

So go back to being a kid and imagine with no boundaries the possibilities of what life can be. Think of the desires that keep coming back to you as much as you try to ignore them. The things you want to accomplish that you keep quitting and coming back to, or never started or want to give up on. Pay attention to them because, more than likely, they are what will make you feel alive and take you to your purpose to impact the life of others. So, as long as they are good and for the benefit of humanity, give voice to those dreams and yearnings. Quiet down those limiting beliefs and grab a piece of paper and just write whatever comes to mind for each area of your life.

Some suggested areas to get you started:

  • Relationship (romantic, friendship, professional, acquaintances, mentorship etc)
  • Health (physical, emotional/mental)
  • Spirituality
  • Finances (budget, expenses, saving, investments etc)
  • Business/Entrepreneurship
  • Career/Academic
  • Leisure
  • Hobby
  • Self care
  • Personal development (personal learning, passion projects)
  • Living space (house, apartment etc)
  • Community (any groups or social circle that you are part of or ways you can contribute within your community)

Identify your values and tie your vision to those values.

Once you are done with that, write down your core values (whether that is compassion, kindness, loyalty, achievements, service, family, friends, relationships, balance, beauty, ethic, integrity etc). Then, go over the broad vision you wrote and see if your values align with those aspirations. If you are true to yourself, your aspirations will align with one or more of your values. If an aspiration does not align with any value, you need to question it. Does it matters to you or it is coming from pressure from others or what you think others will want? Having your vision aligns with your values will serve as the driving force when things gets hard to keep trying.

Time to get creative. Now it is time to make your vision board. Whether it is on a piece of paper or posterboard or computer just be creative with pictures and colors. Make it accessible that you can constantly see it and read it on a regular basis.

Keep in mind your vision is not meant to stay within 1 year. It can be for 3, 5 or 10 years+ and you modify it as you go as your priority changes. It’s about who you want to become and what you want to accomplish. It’s a compass on how you navigate your life, not an endpoint.

Decide on some objectives (or broad goals)

Once you have the vision for each of area, choose 2-4 areas you want to focus on within a certain timeframe. Then decide on 1-3 objectives (broad goals) for each of those areas.

For example:

  • Area: finance
  • Vision: gain financial freedom so I can have more autonomy and help others
  • Objective #1: get out of debt
  • Objective #2: increase income

Your objectives (or broad goals) are more specific than your vision but still not specific down to the details. Those are simply bigger strokes derived from your vision to make that vision come true.

Choose a cycle

Whatever time of the year you are doing this, plan based on the patterns in your life to increase chance of success. As a student, I used to plan per semester to match the rhythm of school time and vacation time. Now that I have 6 months off, even though my vision board and objectives are for the year and beyond, I have chosen 3 objectives to focus on until May.

So choose whatever cycle makes sense for you based on your major responsibilities. It can be every month or every three or four or six months or weather season. If you have kids, maybe do it based on when they are in school vs out of school, or extracurricular/athletic seasons changes etc. The goal is to choose your targets (or more specific goals) with a fix endpoint in sight. That way, you can reach those objectives and in so doing, make your vision a reality bit by bit.

Choose some realistic targets (more specific goals)

It is time to create some targets that will fit within the cycle you choose. Therefore, they have to be definite. You can always continue that same target for another cycle, but you will need to add to it to make it more challenging. For each objective, try to limit your targets to no more than five. Sweet spot is 1-3 goals.

There are multiple ways you can create your targets, some of the most popular ones are:

  • SMART Goals which stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-based
  • PACT which stands for Purposeful, Actionable, Continuous, Trackable.

I prefer PACT because it makes more sense to how I am motivated as my values and vision constitute the “purposeful” part of it and stays in the forefront in my mind.

For example:

  • Area: Health
  • Vision: I am healthy and have more energy and love my body as the temple that it is.
  • Goal/Objective: I make healthier choices in what I eat and drink and put on my body.
  • Cycle: 16 weeks
  • Target: I drink 72oz of water by the end of the 16 weeks.

Create a plan

Now it’s time to create a plan for those targets. Your plan are the actionable steps that are within your control to achieve those targets. You will move closer to achieving those bigger goals and your long term your vision. Those actionable steps are timebound, trackable, and relevant. This is the hard part, because in this step you have to think and choose only the actions that will get you to your goal and remove all the unnecessary fluff. That is where the 80/20 rule in which 20% of your action leads to 80% of your result. This is in turn means your plans can’t be a long checklist. So the less step, the better. Try to limit them to 5 steps per target within a given timeframe to not overwhelm yourself.

Some examples:

Let’s continue with my water example

  • Area: Health
  • Vision: I am healthy and have more energy and love my body as the temple that it is.
  • Goal/Objective: I make healthier choices in what I eat and drink and put on my body.
  • Cycle: 16 weeks
  • Target: I drink 72oz of water by the end of the 16 weeks.
  • Plan:
    • Week 1: Drink 24Oz of water daily
    • Week 2 & 3 Drink 32 oz (),
    • Wk 4 & 5: Drink 40Oz etc
    • Week 15& 16: Drink 72oz.
      • I give myself two weeks to adjust an goal then increase by 1 cup extra of water (8oz) every two weeks. That way my body has some time to adjust and I get some leeway for days I may miss.

For things that are not daily, for example to save more money to pay a debt or something

  • Week 1: Save $25
  • Week 2: Save $30
  • Week 3: Save $35
  • Week 4- Week 6: Save $50 (meaning from week 4 to week 6, you save$50 each week so total of $150 for those 3 weeks)

Choose a tracking method

You need to have a tracker or “a scorecard” system as it is called in the book to track your progress. The goal is every week to hit at least 85% of each actionable step so you can hit your target and in turn achieve your objectives. This step is important because it serves as a motivator and also a reality check. So it’s a must otherwise you won’t be able to quantify and objectify your progress and know how to make proper adjustments and see if your adjustments from week to week is helping or not.

For Example: Week 1 target: Drink 24 oz of water daily. Week 15 & Week 16: Drink 72oz of water daily. In order to more likely achieve my objective of 72oz by week 15, I need to drink 24oz 6 days out the 7 days of week 1. And continue to do that based on my other steps for the subsequent weeks so I can eventually get to 72oz. If i don’t hit 85% but I hit 65% consistenly each week by the end of those 16 weeks, I will be able to tolerate drinking more water than I have been doing in the past but not the 72oz, so maybe I’ll be able to drink 56Oz which is better than what I have been drinking prior to doing this but not the 72oz recommended based on my weight and height and level of activity.

Tracking method suggestions:

So you can use either an tracking app on your phone or Excel or Google Sheet or Word document or Google Docs, or a regular whiteboard or piece of paper or bullet journal etc. No need to go spend money that you don’t have to start, and keep it simple. Personally, I use Google Sheet since it is free with a Google account and have access across all device easily and have offline ability if I don’t have internet, so since I have an Android phone and a Macbook laptop it makes it easier compared to the Android apps that I don’t have same app on my Macbook.

You also need to put them on a task list or calendar, so you can be reminded. Whether it’s your tracking app that gives you reminder or your usual To do list or calendar just put those actionable steps on your to do list just like you would for anything else since they will be part of your day to day or week to week

Review and Reflect

You need to review your tracker/scorecard on a weekly basis to see your progress and make adjustment accordingly. Remember achieving 85% of each actionable steps means more likely you will hit your target each week, which means more likely to achieve your objectives. Achieving at least 65% means you are making some headway towards that objective but not achieving but have improvement compared to where you were before.

Once you review each actionable step and know your percentage, reflect on what made it possible to achieve them, the challenges you face and the barriers that cause you to not achieve them for that week. Once you gather that, see how you can make adjustment to make it easier to achieve them such as maybe start smaller and work you way up. For example if you want to exercise more and you never been consistent instead of jumping to exercise 4x/week and you couldn’t sustain that, make it exercise for 15mins 2x/week for week 1 and then 15mins 3x/week for week 2 and slowly increase the increment in either time like 20mins or frequency like 4x/week until you hit your desired end goal.

Don’t let your emotion make you quit or judging yourself badly as you go through this step. The tracking percentage is a number, so treat it as such and gamify it to make bigger percentage next round. If you are constantly scoring 100% on everything or less than 40% you are doing something wrong. You are not challenging yourself enough so you need to make it more difficult or you challenge yourself too much that you need to make it more manageable and realistic to your lifestyle and need, respectively.

Be truthful & compassionate

To achieve your goals or aspiration, you have to be true to yourself. That means be truthful to your “why” and your “how”. Know why you want to do what you want to do. Let the purpose of it be bigger than yourself, let it be for your betterment but also others because how you show up, how you give, how you receive impact others directly or indirectly because in some way you contribute to this world. All of us are interconnected in some fashion and our thoughts and actions impact ourselves as well as others.

Be compassionate with yourself when you have an off day, when you don’t accomplish that goal you set for that week. Don’t judge yourself, accept whatever emotions you feel but don’t stay in it. Look at the ugly truth for that it is. Is it because of pure laziness, is it because you felt sick or low energy, is it because you got distracted or did not prioritize properly or you put too much on yourself too soon?Whatever the reason is, look at it, accept it, forgive yourself, be kind to yourself and adjust accordingly and get back to it.